January 1st indicates a chance to start fresh and
many of us attempt to tackle unrealistic and absolutely unobtainable
goals. For me, it represents the end of letter of recommendation season.
I’m honored to write a letter. What better way to exercise your purpose as a teacher than
helping someone continue their
education. I also enjoy writing
letters because it is challenging; I’m forced to be creative.
Along with letters of recommendation, those of us that teach
seniors see the first third of the year as “I’m freaking out because everybody says I need a plan for college and
life—I don’t know what to do!”
Seniors are justified in their feelings. The pressure to succeed is often
overwhelming.
I’ve developed
a reputation in my school as the guy who can calm a senior down. Many of the conversations are with
students who were advised to chat with me by their friends. “Mr.
R, Jennifer S is my friend. She
said you can help me with next year.”
I’d like to share how I deal with three frequent comments in
this type of conversation.
1) Student comment:
“I’m not sure what to do next year, what
should I major in?”
My response: “
I’m not sure what to do next year either, so you’re not alone. I LOVE teaching… but interests and
passions change. Before teaching,
I was a salmon biologist in Alaska, so expect your interests to ebb and flow.”
My advice: Use
college to discover your interests.
A senior is only 18.
Most of them are under the impression that the decision to choose a
major is a choice in what to do with the rest of their life. However, a typical 18 year old kid has
been floating along under the guidance of their parents and teachers. They are not interested in psychology
or anthropology. They are
interested in playing soccer and twitter.
When they don’t see “twitter” and “soccer” as majors, they realize that
their interests are of no value.
This can be a scary notion.
A senior can treat college as a chance to sample potential
interests. They get to test drive
different fields of study through the variety of introductory courses offered
by their school.
2) Student comment:
“all I know is that I want to make a lot
of money…”
My response: “You
will, but prioritize doing something that makes you happy.”
My advice: Once
you have identified an interest, work hard to move forward and find your niche.
I’m comfortable advising the students to NOT specifically
focus on money because I am familiar with Dr. Edward
Deci. Deci conducts research
on human motivation. He finds that
individuals who are intrinsically motivated are happier and more successful
then people who are extrinsically motivated. In other words, doing work for the innate personal value of
the activity trumps “I’m only in it for the money.” Follow your passion is not what I’m advocating and is
actually terrible advice (thank you Cal
Newport). I’m suggesting that
they be good at something they are interested in.
3) Student comment:
“I’m worried that I won’t know anyone
next year.”
My response:
“Nobody will know anybody next year.”
My advice: “It’s not what you know, it is who you know
is somewhat true. In the last 18
years, you have learned A LOT about what makes a good friend. Using what you’ve learned, meet new
people and connect with them. Prioritize
who you know.”
Being connected to others is at the core of human
existence. College gives an
individual an amazing opportunity to add people to their personal relationship
resume. Each person is not only a
door of opportunity in the future (professors), but also an ingredient to help
texture their existence.
Upon leaving for college, my father told me: “Stay away from
cults.” He was serious and it was
good advice. Pick and choose your
connections carefully!
To summarize the advice I give to seniors: use college as a way to
develop interests, connect with others, and don’t focus on money.
A quick and awesome resource for a
“freaking-out” senior is The
Adventures of Johnny Bunko.
It is a graphic novel that gives fantastic advice to young people
attempting to find their way.
Thanks for reading.
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